15 forbidden phrases during a family scandal

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• There was no need to marry you
• Hate you
• It’s all your fault
• In vain I listened to you
• I can easily find someone better
• You are just like your mother
• Dumbass
• Yes, I do not care
• Conversation is over
• You don’t understand forget
• Of course! Good luck!
• If you do not, I will leave you
• Too bad I’m not good enough for you
• Everything is fine
• I want to get a divorce

In the heat of emotion it is very easy to say something that you will be very sorry about later. Any careless phrase can destroy even long-term relationships. In the dispute, constructive, honest arguments must be given that relate exclusively to the situation, and not to the whole life of the partners. There are phrases that can never be spoken to spouses, especially during a quarrel.

There was no need to marry you

Or marry you. The most unpleasant, insulting remark. It completely destroys the good that was between the spouses, leaving in the soul of the “accused” resentment and distrust of the partner.

Hate you

A very capacious, harsh phrase, which is usually not true. If a person really hates something or someone, then he throws it out of his life. It is unlikely that in the course of an ordinary quarrel it will become clear that there is no need to save a marriage. Even if it really seemed so, it’s just emotions that will subside, but you can’t return the spoken words back.

It’s all your fault

Both spouses are responsible for any mistake: they overlooked, did not take into account, did not react as expected. An attempt to calculate the share of guilt of each or to make someone one extreme is unlikely to lead to anything good. In order to resolve the situation faster, it is easier to take responsibility, and when the passions subside, constructively and peacefully discuss the situation..

In vain I listened to you

Repeat this phrase more often if you need a doubting partner. But keep in mind – you, too, are far from ideal, also somewhere make a mistake that your soul mate will gladly take advantage of, once playing back the reproaches and humiliations. In a dispute between confident partners, such a phrase will only lead to a stream of mutual accusations, offensive reminders of mistakes.

I can easily find someone better

This phrase is a taboo in every way. When a “absent” third is mentioned in a quarrel, having the same rights as the spouses, this inevitably leads to the collapse of relations. Even if the quarrel ends with a ceasefire, the thought that someone is already better is seated in the head. This means that the previous trust between the spouses has already been lost..

You are just like your mother

Or father, sister, brother, friend. Such a phrase humiliates the spouse, offends the people closest and dearest to him. If you do not want to later regret reckless reproaches, do not devalue the one who means a lot to a person.

Dumbass

A fool, a boob, an idiot is any insult to the mental abilities of a partner. Firstly, you yourself chose a “couple”, and secondly, it is unlikely that a person is really stupid, rather, it is you who cannot clearly explain your thoughts in this way. In any case, such an accusation is a “below the belt” blow. It is unlikely that the partner will be able to forgive him.

Yes, I do not care

Neglecting the feelings of loved ones leads to the destruction of relationships. Instead of offending a loved one, disregarding his opinion, try to ask, understand what he really thinks. The dispute will be more honest.

Conversation is over

Behind these words lies a one-sided, final ban on further communication. A signal that the partner is no longer interesting and not needed. Over time, such a totalitarian relationship will collapse.

You don’t understand forget

The phrase that the partner does not understand you, does not feel so much that it’s even boring to talk with him about this topic. It is unlikely that the spouse is pleased. Try to explain what the problem is..

Of course! Good luck!

This is sarcasm, which is inappropriate in a serious dispute. Such a phrase means the refusal of one spouse to support and help the second. This leads to a loss of mutual trust, a gradual destruction of relations.

If you do not, I will leave you

Blackmail, threats are bad companions of marriage. If any action or inaction can ruin a relationship, is it worth fighting for?.

Too bad I’m not good enough for you

The phrase is suitable for lyric poems, but not family disputes. At one time, both made a choice, lived in marriage for many years, which means they are good enough for each other. Even uttered with a share of sarcasm, such a phrase makes you wary, as it often portends.

Everything is fine

This phrase means refusing to see and solve the problem. Be honest in a relationship, admit that it’s completely “not normal”.

I want to get a divorce

These words are equivalent to the threat of death. In no dispute can the word “divorce” be used as an argument. Even if you only “broke loose and unsuccessfully expressed” – it’s impossible to forget such a wish!