How to make repairs and maintain a good relationship

According to surveys, up to 10% of married couples in the process of renovation thought about divorce. And a third of the respondents spoke about the difficulties they experienced. So the topic is very relevant.

The only way to almost completely get rid of the hassle, not to put the relationship to the test, is to shift all repair work onto the shoulders of professionals. Let the designer deal with the development of the project, and the repair will be carried out by the team, which you can find on the recommendation of friends.

In this case, you only have to control the process without directly dealing with it. True, you can have time to quarrel, telling the designer about your preferences, but the chances are less than in the case of independent repair work. We think a professional will find a compromise solution that suits both of you.

Well, we understand that you may simply not have money for a design project and professional craftsmen. Well, repairs in the apartment can be done by hand, almost all of us have gone through this. To exclude reasons for dissatisfaction with each other, immediately sit down and make a detailed plan – what and where you will change, estimate the repair time. Together, only plan together! And don’t forget to write down!

Think about what kind of work will still require the participation of a specialist, for example, you decide to change the wiring, and your spouse does not understand the electrical part at all. Or you need to change the pipes in the bathroom, that is, you need a plumber. Or a tiler. Make a list of such jobs and look for specialists in advance.

Distribute responsibilities. It is clear that most of the hard work will fall on men’s shoulders, but the other half can and should also help, for example, rip off old wallpaper, plaster, paint … There is a lot of work, perhaps one of you has more free time, you can do by forces while the spouse is at work.

You should also go to construction hypermarkets together, so as not to complain later – “What kind of wallpaper did you choose!” or “I absolutely didn’t like the interior door, it’s awful!” We understand that the beautiful half of the family is likely to “hang out” in the department with wallpaper and various home decor, and a man can devote more time to the necessary tools. But all the same, such a trip should be joint, in order to immediately consult and look for compromise options.

Psychologists have written a lot of books about the difference between male and female logic, having earned decent money, understanding this issue. Most likely, for a woman, the color of the kitchen apron will be more significant than its cost and styling features. Men pay more attention to technical aspects, various novelties. If one spouse likes ultra-modern 3D panels, and the other likes wallpaper in a delicate flower, contradictions cannot be avoided. Perhaps you should think about entrusting the choice of materials for decorating the living room to your husband, and the other half to give the kitchen, where she can experiment with her dear Mediterranean style..

However, disagreements, and even what, can be caused not only by the choice of design direction, color and tile. Don’t forget about the financial side! Repair is costly, so make an approximate estimate in advance, at the planning stage. And immediately note for yourself that you will most likely have to go beyond the budget. It may turn out that your walls are much worse condition than it seemed. Or the wiring should be changed to a more powerful one. Try to stick to your original plans, but don’t scold each other for more expensive plumbing or light switches. To save money, try to use promotions and sales of building supermarkets.

Another separate tip exclusively for beautiful ladies. We understand that you are the mistress of the house, you have the right to vote and, in general, you are an intelligent and respected person. But please don’t command! If a man decides to lay the laminate with his own for the first time, you can quietly stand nearby, handing boards and tools. Just don’t tell him what to do every five minutes, don’t criticize. A confident man can work wonders, and leveling the floor with your own hands is not such an impossible task. Trust in each other is very important! Therefore, treat your spouse’s efforts with respect..

We highly recommend that you periodically take a break from repairs. Get out on a visit, go to the dacha, go to a cafe, go shopping, just not construction, just watch a good movie, you can comedy about repairs to compare with your own difficulties and understand – not everything is so scary.

There is no need to calculate who did how much during the repair and whose main merit is that it finally ended. The most important thing is that you did it together.

By the way, according to statistics, most people admit that after the completion of the renovation work they feel more comfortable at home. Half of the respondents said that the completed renovation made them happier. And most importantly, the same number of respondents said that they now spend time with each other with great pleasure! What we wish you too.